About uncertainty and striving for perfection.

How wonderful it is when we can finally find ourselves in a calm place! How often do this happen? Not as often as we wish. We are usually at war with ourselves, drowning our calm with meaningless comparisons, drowning our own feelings, and striving to keep reality as a (false) positive one by force.

Today I wanted to share some wise and true are words coming from my dear teacher and friend, Melinda Jacobs (see video). She talks about the ‘striving for perfection paradox’. It’s so important to know that things, just as they are in our lives (and the way we are right now too) are perfect. Calm can be found in uncertainty.

 

You can find Melinda at quantum-therapeutics.com

Choose to be kind and grateful.

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“Break the rules or break yourself”

First, I would like to address the reason for my absence these past months. I have been on my own journey of growth and healing and needed some time off.  Also, I needed to work on myself,  refresh and concentrate on my studies for a while. The truth is, there is no end to what we need to learn and unlearn, it is a constant process.

I owed this effort to myself, my family, my clients and to whomever dare read my blog. Having been preaching about the importance of self-care for a while now, I could only but follow my own advice and take some time to continue evolving without excessive stress, to do some mind wardrobe cleaning, soul healing, and complete some certifications.

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Clean is the word I choose to describe how my heart feels right now. So, back to blogging!

Yesterday, I had an amazing opportunity to be present (via Zoom) during an interview to Pilar Gerasimo, founding editor of Experience Life magazine, co-host (with Dallas Hartwig) of “The Living Experiment” podcast, creator of the “101 Revolutionary Ways to Be Healthy” and author of “A Manifesto for Thriving in a Mixed Up World.” She is amazing and the title to this blog entry comes from her.

From this wonderful interview (I took tons of notes) new insights came to me and I’d like to share some of them. The “Break the Rules or break yourself” applies to the rules each of us carry inside which prevents us to follow our intuition (for our own good or others). Our heads contain rules as to the way things should be or the way we should do things.

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What rules are in my head or your head? Probably those installed by transgenerational learning or by social media, or simply those created by ourselves: Rules about what should be achieved, how it should be performed, controlled, or in what ways we should conform. The thing is, we usually know what we need to do in order to take care of ourselves, but we don’t do it. We place our mind over heart and gut feelings. Most of us are living in ‘reaction’ without even knowing it and the constant stress that this produces takes a high toll. It’s important to know how to disengage and pull our energy back by having quiet slabs of time and relaxation. We cannot take good care of others if we don’t take care of ourselves first.

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How important it is to discover our own thinking and our own feeling about things in life! We live in a world where anxiety sometimes seems to be the only operating system, and everyone is breaking themselves by living this way. Stress insanity is violence against our bodies, hearts and souls.

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“The mind is where the soul goes to hide from the heart”. So, fight to quiet the mind and slow down; emotional care comes first and all others are just a tad behind.

Choose to be kind and grateful.

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Don’t become a closed-minded life expert.

 

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I really believe it is impossible to reach a place where there is no more room for learning or growing anymore. It is also impossible to know exactly what the other person is going through and, since every experience is different for everyone, one can only guess. Everyone is on a similar but at the same time very different life journey. Helping each other through empathy and kindness, and sharing experiences and knowledge while respecting each other, works better than “expert” advise.

Choose to be kind and grateful.

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Healing…

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“Healing is not a burden but a privilege we should be thankful for.”

I kept asking myself what else could I add to this phrase but couldn’t find anything… It  recently affected my perspective profoundly so I had to share.

 

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Choose to be kind and grateful.

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Only you can.

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“Don’t let the sadness of your past and the fear of your future ruin the happiness of your present”. Ah, easier said than done.

Indeed there are things we do not want to happen but have to accept, let go and see what else might happen afterwards. Some of us usually get stuck between the ‘accept/let go’ part or the ‘trust in the future’ part. In these situations it might help us remember that we can’t control anything except our own reactions and perspective towards life. Do know that no one can do this for you, even if you have support and help from others, you have the last word. Only you can make the choice to enjoy the present moment no matter what. Only you can.

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Choose to be kind and grateful.

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