First, I would like to address the reason for my absence these past months. I have been on my own journey of growth and healing and needed some time off. Also, I needed to work on myself, refresh and concentrate on my studies for a while. The truth is, there is no end to what we need to learn and unlearn, it is a constant process.
I owed this effort to myself, my family, my clients and to whomever dare read my blog. Having been preaching about the importance of self-care for a while now, I could only but follow my own advice and take some time to continue evolving without excessive stress, to do some mind wardrobe cleaning, soul healing, and complete some certifications.
Clean is the word I choose to describe how my heart feels right now. So, back to blogging!
Yesterday, I had an amazing opportunity to be present (via Zoom) during an interview to Pilar Gerasimo, founding editor of Experience Life magazine, co-host (with Dallas Hartwig) of “The Living Experiment” podcast, creator of the “101 Revolutionary Ways to Be Healthy” and author of “A Manifesto for Thriving in a Mixed Up World.” She is amazing and the title to this blog entry comes from her.
From this wonderful interview (I took tons of notes) new insights came to me and I’d like to share some of them. The “Break the Rules or break yourself” applies to the rules each of us carry inside which prevents us to follow our intuition (for our own good or others). Our heads contain rules as to the way things should be or the way we should do things.
What rules are in my head or your head? Probably those installed by transgenerational learning or by social media, or simply those created by ourselves: Rules about what should be achieved, how it should be performed, controlled, or in what ways we should conform. The thing is, we usually know what we need to do in order to take care of ourselves, but we don’t do it. We place our mind over heart and gut feelings. Most of us are living in ‘reaction’ without even knowing it and the constant stress that this produces takes a high toll. It’s important to know how to disengage and pull our energy back by having quiet slabs of time and relaxation. We cannot take good care of others if we don’t take care of ourselves first.
How important is to discover our own thinking and our own feeling about things in life! We live in a world where anxiety sometimes seems to be the only operating system, and everyone is breaking themselves by living this way. Stress insanity is violence against our bodies, hearts and souls.
“The mind is where the soul goes to hide from the heart”. So, fight to quiet the mind and slow down; emotional care comes first and all others are just a tad behind.
Choose to be kind and grateful.