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I dare describe being an HSP as having but one constant: its own inconsistency. Living in a household full of HSPs has been the adventure of a lifetime or better said a lifetime of adventure.
Together, through helping each other and learning from each other is how we have learned to thrive. Getting to know each other´s potential and limitations and respecting each other through them has been key in making of sensitivities an opportunity to become better people.
The highly sensitive person has a sensitive nervous system, is aware of subtleties in his/her surroundings, and is more easily overwhelmed when in a highly stimulating environment.” (Elaine Aron, Ph.D.)
I would like to share some tips we find helpful as a family:
-Accepting that we cannot handle our sensitivity while being very tired or hungry. Therefore we try to prevent this and if not possible, we understand a limit has been reached and either try to minimize the blow for the HSP in turn or respect their space.
-Accepting that sometimes people don’t understand what being an HSP is all about so our home and family are our safe haven.
-Avoiding (when possible) hostile environments (no matter what people say). Since this kind of situation drains our energy fast and it’s hard not to be affected by the negative energy around.
-Learning to let go easily. Knowing that what may look as “a bad temper outburst” is seldom personal. Instead, we try remembering that it’s probably the result from overstimulation.
-Spending time in nature or exercising outside. We have learned never to underestimate the power of this one. In our family we know gyms are not for us.
-Having a personal private space. It doesn’t have to be a room. For example, my eldest daughter’s private personal space is her bed, if she is there reading, working or even doing nothing she should not be bothered, we know she is recharging.
-Kindness. Kindness against fears, against negative thoughts and against mistakes, knowing that as HSPs we tend to be harsh on ourselves.
-Practicing receiving. Simply because sometimes we are not good at receiving help or compliments.
-Going for the next best feeling. Some feelings and sensations are hard to overcome and trying to go from overwhelmed and negative to cheerful-positive is impossible; therefore, just taking one step at a time is better and completely ok.
-Learning to take responsibility. Knowing when a person or situation is too much simply because I am the sensitive one and this too is completely ok.
-Doing our best. Which means softening the standards (we tend to be very hard on ourselves) and doing what we can at the moment (not what we “should”).
Choose to be kind and grateful.