It is completely understandable not loving what we are going through sometimes, but if we love ourselves during it, things actually become a lot more endurable. I have experimented with this idea many times and it always works wonders. The trick is to switch off the negative thoughts that flow through my head (at all times) as soon as they show up. Some of us seem programmed to automatically think the worst case scenarios and blame ourselves for them simultaneously, but loving ourselves during difficult situations really makes a difference, making it possible to go through life’s painful moments with peace of mind and heart.
As everything around you collapses and nothing works according to plan, the only thing you can do is love yourself through the process. This releases a chain reaction: good thoughts -good feelings- good actions and, if you are lucky, good reactions. Just give it a try, write down every negative thought that crosses your mind during your day and how many of this thoughts provoke self-judgment or loathing of yourself in any way. Also, please check later how many of this thoughts became an actual reality. I can only say that since I chose to stop such toxic thoughts on their tracks I breathe easier, and I’m grateful each and every time I can achieve this because even though I might end up my day feeling very tired, this makes the difference between a good day or a bad one.
Choose to be kind and grateful.