Watching your thoughts during hard times.

It is completely understandable not loving what we are going through sometimes, but if we love ourselves during it, things actually become a lot more endurable. I have experimented with this idea many times and it always works wonders. The trick is to switch off the negative thoughts that flow through our head (at all times) as soon as they show up. Some of us seem programmed to automatically think the worst case scenarios and blame ourselves for them simultaneously, but loving ourselves during difficult situations really makes a difference, making it possible to go through life’s painful moments with peace of mind and heart.


As everything around you collapses and nothing works according to plan, the only thing you can do is love yourself through the process. This releases a chain reaction: good thoughts -good feelings- good actions and, if you are lucky, good reactions. Just give it a try, write down every negative thought that crosses your mind during your day and how many of this thoughts provoke self-judgment or loathing of yourself in any way. Also, please check later how many of this thoughts became an actual reality. I can only say that  I’m grateful each and every time I can achieve this (not always) because even though I might end up my day feeling very tired, this makes the difference between a good day or a bad one.


Choose to be kind and grateful.

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Are you a highly sensitive person?

“The highly sensitive person has a sensitive nervous system, is aware of subtleties in his/her surroundings, and is more easily overwhelmed when in a highly stimulating environment.” (Elaine Aron, Ph.D.).  I would like to add that a HSP’s inner world is very rich.


If you think you have this amazing trait please do not try to fix it, do not feel broken, do not feel like a victim. Honor your sensitivity and take into account that all events happening around you affect you more than they will affect everybody else; you might be more prone to emotional eating as a way of protection, more prone to overthinking and self-judgment, might have a hard time with change and letting go.

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I really recommend Dr. Elaine Aron’s book: The Highly Sensitive Person, How to Thrive When the World Overwhelms You where you will find a fresh perspective on this trait and great techniques to take care of yourself.



Choose to be kind and grateful.

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“Healing is not a burden but a privilege we should be thankful for.”

I kept asking myself what else could I add to this phrase but couldn’t find anything… It  recently affected my perspective profoundly so I had to share.



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Food after mood or mood after food.

What we eat affects our mood and our mood affects what we eat. It’s a fact. It’s the way it is. The longer the (food/mood or vice versa) cycle goes on, the longer it takes to break free of it and correct course. If the cycle has been going on for a long time, it will take a long time to correct. Quitting ‘cold turkey’ either food or emotions usually ends up in failure, so taking just one or several steps every day is key in breaking the pattern. Take notice… if mood started the cycle, taking steps for inner self-care first is essential. On the other hand, if food started the cycle, taking steps to add more nourishing food to slowly displace the bad food choices should start to decelerate the problem. A combination of both, inner self care and better food choices is optimal but I do suggest to start with the main cause first. Look not for overnight perfection or correction but for slow daily progress and since sometimes things get worse before they get better, self-compassion and understanding will go a long way in the process.

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Only you can.


“Don’t let the sadness of your past and the fear of your future ruin the happiness of your present”. Ah, easier said than done.

Indeed there are things we do not want to happen but have to accept, let go and see what else might happen afterwards. Some of us usually get stuck between the ‘accept/let go’ part or the ‘trust in the future’ part. In these situations it might help us remember that we can’t control anything except our own reactions and perspective towards life. Do know that no one can do this for you, even if you have support and help from others, you have the last word. Only you can make the choice to enjoy the present moment no matter what. Only you can.


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Improve health just a bit.

Improve just a bit every day. You deserve it. A bit is possible. A bit is accessible.

Go to bed a bit earlier. Eat a bit slower than yesterday. Be a little bit more present. Give a little bit of time to a friend. Drink a bit more water. Add a bit of fresh (unprocessed) food to your plate. Walk a bit more. Do a little bit more of what you fancy. Smile a bit more. Dare to think a bit more positive. Get a bit of sun. Be a little bit more patient. Bit by bit get a dream accomplished. Read a bit before bed. Turn off gadgets just a bit more often…


(Do note that improving  just a bit is not a recommended approach for addictions).

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Changing an obsolete behavior pattern.

It’s been a while since my last post. I have been otherwise engaged and, in trying to follow my own advice, decided not to stress about being unable to write for a while. The fact that I decided upon not stressing doesn´t mean I was completely successful at it; therefore, I needed to find a solution… From now on, in order to be able to blog, I will have to write shorter versions of the ideas I want to share. So there!

Now, about changing an obsolete behavior pattern… It’s not an easy thing to unlearn patterns which run back for generations, but in choosing to acknowledge that a pattern no longer works and needs a tune up for our own wellbeing and for those around us, we take a very important step towards health and happiness. Each one of us can find something that no longer works and search for the tools and the courage needed to change it out of love for ourselves and others. What would you like to change?



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