Let me start by saying that I know a lot of people are having trouble with their metabolism these days (myself included). Symptoms are so diverse, like unpleasant digestive issues, inability to lose weight, chronic fatigue, hormonal imbalance, constipation, and chronic migraines, to name a few. If you’ve been tested and there’s nothing “wrong” with you, then you might want a try an alternative approach by working on finding your very own metabolism-wreckers, by which I mean taking a dive within you to search for the cause of such ailments instead of just treating the effects.
Stress… an overused word these days. But alas, it’s not without just cause since stress is the official byproduct of all metabolism-wreckers. An ever-present disease precursor, stress makes itself at home in us without invitation. Sometimes we get so used to it we no longer detect it, or worse, choose to ignore its presence.
There are infinite metabolism-wreckers but today I would like to address one in particular: Not forgiving ourselves. Note that this isn’t about forgiving others, which believe it or not, is easier than forgiving ourselves (I mean really forgiving, not just denying). Last week, this topic came to my attention by means of a most dear mentor’s class. As always, my mind started roaming and analyzing immediately, a process I not always enjoy but have learned to embrace as a valuable part of who I am and the work I do.
Next is a tiny summary of my mind’s wanderings and explorations as I listened to my mentor’s words: Have you forgiven all your past mistakes, errors in judgment, bad decisions which affected other people, decisions which produced shame within you, your ignorance, your lack of action, all temperament issues and bad habits? Believe me, I even asked myself about forgiving myself for not being able to forgive as fast…. It was an interesting moment to say the least.
So, just in case all this resonates with you I want to emphasize this: Please realize you did the best you could at the time. Because the way we act, the decisions we take, the way we think and the way we respond depends on the skills we have, the frame of mind we’re in, and how we perceive the situation at that moment. Maybe we didn’t have as much objectivity, maturity, knowledge, or life experience and the fact that you are realizing that now means that you‘ve grown, matured and learned…and that is a very good thing. A great thing!
One word: compassion. In case you find things which you have not forgiven yourself for, please stop beating yourself up about it. If we can learn to think of ourselves as our best friend, to speak to ourselves with love and kindness we can heal and by healing our metabolism will start to regulate itself. As you feel the weight lifting and the stress produced by bottled up emotions inside you leaving… then there will be room to heal, nourish yourself, and improve health. Remember to always be a work in progress, which means you’ll get there a little at a time, not all at once. It is a great thing to look for metabolism-wreckers and start to exterminate anything that depletes you from enjoying life. New behavior and thinking patterns are both skills. So, cut yourself some slack while you’re on a new learning curve. Realize that you’re going to make mistakes. We all do.
Choose to be kind and grateful.